When I decided to dedicate this blog post to unconditional love, I considered it to be much easier. I had just healed from grieving for my husband. In grief we are stuck in a certain situation, the passing of a loved one. Grief is a form of wanting, the wish that the deceased person is still incarnate. Unconditional love is love for love’s sake, wanting nothing, expecting nothing.
Feeling my love flowing freely again was a wonderful experience that filled my heart with joy and made me happy. It seemed so simple – now I can love my husband unconditionally.
However, life is not that simple. Wishes showed up and “unconditionally” hid, was nowhere to be found. The road of unconditional love is bumpy, we must keep the constantly wandering mind firmly under control.
A few days ago, I was allowed to pass on a lovely message from a mother in the otherworld to her daughter: You think that unconditional love must be something big and outstanding, but it’s the little things that matter. If you look at a beautiful flower – many tiny petals create the beautiful flower.
Daffodils
Recently I received a message from my deceased mother with a nice memory: As a child I found a bulb in the meadow and planted it where I found it. Next spring a daffodil grew. Every day after school was my first way to the daffodil – I loved it. This went on for several years. When the presumed loser of the flower bulb died, her niece removed all her plants, including that daffodil. I watched her from the living room with tears in my eyes.
Next spring three daffodils appeared – the original bulb had produced new bulbs that bloomed for the first time! When I passed a flower shop the day after receiving the message and saw small pots of daffodils in the window, I could not resist…
Was my love for the daffodil unconditional? I don’t know. What I do know is that, unconditionally or not, I hold it like Mother Teresa in her beautiful poem “Do It Anyway” and love anyway. What are we here for but to love?