… since my husband passed. His passing has intensified my experience of the spiritual dimension of life.
Among the things I learned:
- You don’t get over it – you learn to live with it. We find a new, different connection to the deceased person that we loved and continue to love. With whom we were deeply connected and continue to be deeply connected.
- We don’t lose the other person – we lose their physical presence. There is no end – only change.
- It takes time to get used to their continued presence and our different form of relationship. We must be patient with ourselves – our loved ones in spirit are patient with us.
- My closeness to the beyond does not erase my humanity. I feel the pain and sadness – but it helps to feel the loved ones so close.
Carl Jung said: “Death is a drawing together of two worlds, not an end. We are the bridge.” As a medium, I am a bridge that gives a voice to those on the other side of life that haven’t got a voice anymore.
Our journey continues
In July 2021 I wrote: “Lately, I have found it harder to attune to my husband. There is so much to be done. Activities that give me joy, but which have nothing to do with my husband and do not connect me directly with him … “
I was wrong. Not only is everything I do now shaped by our time together – but my husband is also a part of everything I started after his death. Our lives are connected, and we move on together. He is there and shares my experience. He gives me strength and courage, ideas and understanding, sometimes advice and above all love.
My husband and I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye one last time. It was not necessary as he never left me. We are close in other ways. Our journey continues as life continues to unfold.
“Death is not the opposite of life. Life has no opposite. The opposite of death is birth. Life is eternal.” (Eckhart Tolle)